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Youâve done the inner work⊠so why do you still people please?
Youâve been to therapy.
Youâve read the books.
Youâve become more self-aware.
You understand why you people please.
And yetâŠ
You still find yourself saying yes when you want to say no.
Avoiding difficult conversations.
Putting other peopleâs needs before your own.
Staying quiet instead of saying what you really think.
If youâve ever wonderedâŠ
âWhy do I keep doing this when I know better?â
Youâre not alone đ€
Why is people pleasing so hard to change?
If youâve been on an inner healing journey for a while, youâve probably already had the insight.
Maybe youâve realized your people pleasing developed because you learned it was safer to keep others happy than risk conflict, disappointment, rejection, or judgment.
That awareness is so valuable.
But understanding why you people please doesnât automatically change what happens in the moment.
You can know you deserve boundaries.
You can know your needs matter.
You can know itâs okay to say no.
âŠand still find yourself saying yes.
Why?
Because people pleasing isnât driven by logic.
Itâs driven by emotion.
When guilt, fear, or shame arise, your nervous system automatically reaches for the response thatâs felt safest for years: keeping someone else happy.
Thatâs why this workshop isnât about learning better boundary scripts.
Itâs about learning how to work with the emotions that make boundaries, honest communication, and authentic self-expression feel so difficult in the first place.
Hereâs exactly what weâll do together
You'll choose one real-life situation where you tend to people please -- whether itâs saying yes when you want to say no, avoiding a difficult conversation, putting someone elseâs needs before your own, or holding back what you really think.
Together, weâll move through a simple four-step process designed to help you begin responding differently the next time youâre in that situation.
Step 1: Self Awareness
Weâll identify the primary emotion driving your people-pleasing behavior so you know exactly whatâs been getting in the way of responding the way you want to.
Step 2: Emotional Processing
Using EFT Tapping, weâll begin processing the guilt, fear, shame, or other emotions that are keeping the pattern in place. As your nervous system begins to feel safer, it becomes easier to respond in new ways.
Step 3: Thought Challenges
Weâll gently challenge the thoughts keeping you stuck in people pleasing and replace them with beliefs that make your new behavior feel safe and possible.
Step 4: Practice
Together, weâll prepare for the next time this situation happens. Youâll identify exactly how youâd like to handle it and leave feeling more prepared to put it into practice.
How can EFT Tapping help?
A lot of healing work helps us understand why we are the way we are. And that awareness is important.
But understanding a pattern and feeling free from a pattern are two different things.
You might logically know:
âI donât have to keep everyone happy.â
âItâs okay to say no.â
âMy needs matter too.â
But if guilt, fear, or shame still feel overwhelming in the moment, those truths can be difficult to put into practice.
EFT Tapping helps you calm your nervous system by sending a gentle safety signal to your brain by tapping on acupressure points throughout the body.
As your emotions begin to release, old experiences, beliefs, and protective patterns start to lose their grip on you.
The goal isnât to convince yourself that it's okay to have boundaries and be yourself.
The goal is to help your mind and body feel safe enough to actually follow through.
Thatâs why this workshop combines emotional processing with practical tools -- so you donât just leave with more insight, you leave feeling more capable of showing up the way you truly want to.
Healing my own people pleasing is what has allowed me to:
â„ Say no to things that I don't want to do without feeling guilty
â„Â Successfully & lovingly navigate conflict in relationships
â„Â Enforce my personal boundaries & advocate for myself
℠Publicly express affection for my partners without caring if it makes people feel uncomfortable
â„ Be more upfront when my feelings have been hurt
â„ Release long term friendships that I had outgrown
â„Â Select new friendships that leave me feeling deeply fulfilled
â„Â Stop agreeing with people simply out of habit & pause to consider my own opinion
â„Â Feel significantly happier in my life because I'm actually living in alignment with who I am and what I want!
This workshop is for you ifâŠ
đ€Â Youâve done therapy or other inner healing work but still find yourself falling back into people-pleasing patterns.
đ€Â  You know what youâd like to do in difficult situations, but guilt, fear, or shame often get in the way.
đ€Â  Youâre ready to move beyond simply understanding your patterns and start changing them.
đ€Â  You want to feel more confident speaking up, setting boundaries, and honoring your own needs.
đ€Â  Youâre willing to feel uncomfortable emotions in order to create lasting change.
đ€Â  Youâre curious about EFT Tapping -- or youâve experienced it before and want another opportunity to deepen your healing.
Youâll walk away withâŠ
đ€Â A clear understanding of the primary emotion driving your people-pleasing pattern
đ€Â A calmer nervous system around one real-life situation youâre currently feeling challenged by
đ€Â A new perspective on the thoughts that have been keeping you stuck
đ€Â Greater confidence navigating guilt, fear, and shame when they arise
đ€Â A clear plan for how youâd like to handle your situation the next time it happens
đ€Â A firsthand experience of how EFT Tapping can help create meaningful emotional change
đ€Â Practical tools you can begin putting into practice immediately
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How to stop being a people pleaser and finally choose yourself without the crippling guiltÂ
Forget the automatic "yes," swallowing your opinions, and exhausting
yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
As a Clinical EFT Tapping Practitioner, I've spent hundreds of hours helping women unlearn their people pleasing habits - the exact same habits that used to keep me prioritizing everyone else's comfort over my own life.
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Inside this 75-minute workshop, I'm handing you the exact 4-step framework to gently process the guilt, stop handing out automatic "yeses," and start living a life that actually belongs to you.
You already know youâre supposed to choose yourself... So why is it so hard to actually do it?
As a smart, self-aware woman, you probably already know exactly what you should be doing. But despite reading the books and doing the inner work, you still find yourself:
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Saying "yes" when your body is screaming "no" just so you don't have to feel the crushing weight of guilt.
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Swallowing your feelings and avoiding conflict because you are terrified of disapproval or hurting someone else.
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Dimming your light and downplaying your opinions so you don't make anyone in the room uncomfortable.
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Believing the lie that if you just found the "perfect script" to set a boundary, it would finally be easy.
We are officially done letting fear and guilt run the show.
Trying to logic your way out of people pleasing doesn't work because emotions are always stronger than logic.
In this workshop, we aren't just talking about your boundaries - we are actively rewiring how your body responds to them.
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Here is exactly how this workshop will help you:
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Uncover your hidden driver: We'll identify the exact, uncomfortable emotion that is hijacking your nervous system and forcing you to say "yes."
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Soothe your physical anxiety: You will experience a guided EFT Tapping session to instantly lower your cortisol and teach your body that it is safe to prioritize yourself.
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Stop the anxious spirals: You'll learn a simple 3-question framework to stay anchored in reality when your mind starts spinning with "what if they are mad at me?" stories.
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Flip your reward system: Stop trading your long-term happiness to avoid 5 minutes of guilt. Youâll learn how to anchor into the beautiful long-term rewards of living authentically.
What's Included
Everything you need to stop the automatic "yes" and finally choose yourself.
When you join today, you get instant access to:
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The 75-Minute "How To Stop People Pleasing"Â WorkshopÂ
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What it is: A deep-dive interactive video training breaking down my signature 4-step framework.
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What it gives you: You will finally understand why your body defaults to people pleasing, and you'll learn the exact somatic process to stop shrinking yourself so you can start responding intentionally instead of automatically.
The Guided EFT Tapping Session (Built Right In!)
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What it is: A fully guided, follow-along tapping sequence embedded directly in the workshop.
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What it gives you: You won't just take notes -- you will actively experience a mind/body somatic reset. This session lowers your cortisol stress levels in real-time, shutting off your fight/flight/fawn response so your nervous system learns it is actually safe to stop people pleasing.
The 4-Part Interactive Companion Worksheet
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What it is: A beautiful, fill-in-the-blank guide to use alongside the video.
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What it gives you: Instead of just listening to theory, you will bring one specific, real-life scenario to the workshop. This worksheet helps you challenge your anxious thoughts, identify your hidden emotional drivers, andanchor into the tangible results you actually want -- like a calendar filled only with things you want to do and relationships where you can finally be yourself.
Wait, what if I get overwhelmed and don't finish it?
I completely understand that doing emotional healing work can feel daunting! That is exactly why the guided EFT Tapping is built directly into the video. You don't have to figure anything out on your own. The moment you press play and tap along with me, your nervous system will instantly begin to relax. You will feel a tangible shift the very first time you use it.
Hi, I'm Jess đ
Clinical EFT Tapping Practitioner
This work is deeply personal to me. I used to believe that my worth came from being the nicest, easiest, and most accommodating person in the room.
But the truth is, being a people pleaser was only keeping me from the life I truly wanted. It wasnât until I started doing the deep inner work that I realized how much I was holding myself back.
I've spent the last 8+ years transforming myself from that accommodating "good girl" into an empowered girl. EFT Tapping was the absolute game-changer on my journey, which is exactly why I went on to complete a 12-month certification to master it.
Since then, Iâve led over 500 hours of tapping sessions, helping women find their voice, deeply love and respect themselves, and become the leaders of their own lives.
My work is about helping you feel radically safe to be yourself -Â to say the thing, set the boundary, wear the outfit, share your gifts, rest when you need to, and finally live life on your terms. I am so excited to walk you through this process.
This framework changes lives
The somatic tools inside this workshop are the exact same ones I use with my private 1:1 clients. Iâve spent hundreds of hours helping women unlearn their people pleasing habits and the relief on the other side is beautiful.
Here is what happens when you finally choose yourself...
Kadi Jayne
I now embrace my emotions without self-judgment and have learned to treat myself with loving kindness while empowering myself to take action toward the life of my dreams.
Kira Michelle
I was trapped in an exhausting cycle of people pleasing and overthinking, so afraid of messing up or being judged.
Now my inner critic has quieted down and Iâve started treating myself with more compassion instead of beating myself up.
Sammie Walker Herrera
One of the biggest shifts has been moving through visibility blocks - especially around showing up as myself. Iâm finally letting go of the fear of what others will think and embracing a more authentic version of me.Â